“Letting go helps us to to live in a more peaceful state of mind and helps restore our balance. It allows others to be responsible for themselves and for us to take our hands off situations that do not belong to us. This frees us from unnecessary stress.”
— Melody Beattie
This week, let’s focus on what we can let go of.
Mental decluttering and reducing stress are integral to good mental health, and they’re usually linked to external factors such as responsibilities, perceived obligations, and anything that makes you feel like you have to do it too.
Here’s the thing: You don’t.
First, write down everything that you need to do in the near future; Bills to pay, meetings to go to, tasks you’ve agreed to do, all of it.
Now, let’s try a simple meditation technique today: Simply sit still and focus on your breathing.
Aim for 10 minutes of this activity.
Then, after completing the exercise, look again at the list and decide which of these you can cross off.
Sure, there will be some that must be done whether we like it or not. What is important to note, though, is that there are more things that don’t have to be on our To-Do Lists if we would just give them a satisfying
How much time have you freed up today?
Name: How Not To Die by Michael Greger, M.D.
Best Features: Extremely informative, wide plethora of sources, academic yet approachable, can skip around
Possible Pitfalls: Long read, info-heavy, controversial
Overall Rating: ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ [5/5]
Discussion: This book has changed my life. It has become my favorite book in print, and I recommend it to anyone and everyone that asks me for book ideas. Or even if they don’t ask me for book ideas. 😉
How Not To Die discusses what foods are making us sick, how we can avoid them, and what foods will actually work for us to heal. Dr. Michael Greger does promote an entirely whole foods plant-based (WFPB) diet, but he doesn’t go into Whole Foods Veganism as a movement. If you don’t like Vegans or Veganism, you won’t hear a lot of preaching about what you should do just because the author says so. Nor will you hear anything about animal rights or the environment. Almost anti-activist, Dr. Greger simply cites source after source, academic peer-reviewed study after study of nutritional information for your cross-referencing pleasure. Sometimes six references in a single sentence. Pure factual information.
An easy read, with plenty of science to back it up, I wholeheartedly recommend How Not To Die to everyone. No wonder it has five stars with over 2k reviews on Amazon.
“The chief beauty about time
is that you cannot waste it in advance.
The next year, the next day, the next hour are lying ready for you,
as perfect, as unspoiled,
as if you had never wasted or misapplied
a single moment in all your life.
You can turn over a new leaf every hour
if you choose.”
— Arnold Bennett
Happy Monday, everyone.
This week, make an active effort to forget about the past. Even for a moment.
Take a sip of your favorite drink, soak up some sunshine, and revel in the now.
It doesn’t have to be New Year’s Eve to make a resolution, form a goal, or change your life.
Action only happens in the present. Change only happens in the present.
Let the past rest easy today, let the future remain distant.
“Awareness is like the sun. When it shines on things, they are transformed.”
— Thich Nhat Hanh
One of the most soothing,
the most helpful,
The most grounding efforts one can make in their mindfulness practice, is awareness.
Beth Berila dives into this quite a bit in her textbook, Integrating Mindfulness into Anti-Oppression Pedagogy: Social Justice in Higher Education (Amazon link here, author website here). I highly recommend it for those, like me, who are pursuing a degree in education. It’s definitely on our Lit List list (haha).
One of the techniques she teaches is called “Cultivating The Witness” (p. 79-80*), which, at its root, is simply cultivating the skills necessary to be aware of a situation without being overwhelmed by it.
How can we do this?
The first step is to meditate on a scenario that caused a strong reaction in the past. Evaluate yourself without judgment. Ask yourself why you felt that way, explore the root(s) of your reaction.
Then, when confronted with the same or a similar situation in the future, try to stop and evaluate. Compare, in the moment, if the root is the same. If it is, ask yourself:
What can I do to heal?
After much deliberation, I’ve decided that EFF should be reduced to once a month. I believe that this is for the best, since it would allow for a more in-depth post about eco-friendly topics. Every other week, despite giving me more time, still felt too rushed. Therefore, Eco-Friendly Friday will occur on the third Friday of every month.
[EDIT]: HOWEVER, due to personal events, the series will begin like this on September 15th, 2017.
It’s been a while since the FYF team has posted anything. A shame on our part, really. Time management is probably one of the hardest things to work around. Partly though, it must be because of how we’re organizing our priorities.
It’s amazing how much time simply flies by when we’re anticipating actions that never happen. So many goals, so much to do, such a large number of things that can get in the way of progress. Why? We’re prioritizing comfort, perhaps. We want a moment to breathe, an escape from reality and for responsibilities to drift away like petals in the breeze.
Somewhere, in all that mess, lie our true desires. Running a blog is one of my passions, one of my favorite hobbies. So is cooking, crafting, creating beautiful spaces, and enjoying warm mugs of tea in the morning.
These are the things I should be prioritizing.
It’s easy to forget that, huh?
Simple things that give so much pleasure despite the time they take up.
Everything takes time. Might as well pick the things I enjoy the most.
See ya soon,
“I do not believe that sheer suffering teaches. If suffering alone taught, all the world would be wise, since everyone suffers. To suffering must be added mourning, understanding, patience, love, openness and the willingness to remain vulnerable.”
– Joseph Addison
The tone of this Mindful Monday is a little different than usual.
Unfortunately, some of my close friends have been coping with more loss than they should ever have to deal with this week.
While we can prepare ourselves in some way for the inevitable loss of our loved ones from age and natural causes, suicide always hits hard and without mercy.
If anyone around you is experiencing thoughts of suicide–even if it doesn’t seem like they would act on them–please call 1-800-273-8255. You will be routed to the nearest Lifeline facility that can connect you with local resources that can help your loved one.
For more information, refer to https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/.
Remind those around you how much they mean to you.
Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.
Events come and go; a mighty plethora of them grasping and demanding our attention.
It’s easy to get lost in these events. Easy to let them crash angrily upon our shores like vicious waves.
It’s even easier to turn negative feelings caused by these events against our loved ones. Whether they were involved or not.
Today, let us take a moment to contemplate how we can prevent this.
If we feel compelled to turn upon a friendly face, pause and take a moment to breathe.
Ground yourself in the moment and grab hold of something you love; a feeling, a memory, an event.
Describe it to your loved one,
Let yourself be free.
This topic is actually hugely controversial.
Whoops. Here I go bringing up things I shouldn’t.
However, many vegans discuss their stances on this, so I might as well join in. The following information is purely my viewpoint and doesn’t reflect upon the community as a whole.
Because there are vegans that believe animals and humans are equally important. There are vegans that believe animal suffering is more important than human greed, and therefore pay more attention to animal rights than human rights. There are vegans that care more for human rights than animal rights, focusing more on long-term health and ecological survivability than whether or not animals are suffering because of our current actions.
There’s no good way to determine which stance is the “correct” one, in my opinion. Of course, it would make sense for humans to be mostly concerned with other humans. If it was a matter of life and death between an animal and a loved one, the overwhelming majority of us wouldn’t hesitate to save their loved ones. But that’s not really the debate here. What is being debated is whether or not we should care the other 99.99% of the time. When we aren’t being forced to choose between the life of an animal or loved one.
Personally, I believe that our species needs to strengthen our empathy. It is our own hubris that will bring about our destruction, if and when it comes.
It’s not a matter of whether or not humans should care about animals. It’s not a matter of whether or not humans should care about the rights of other humans. It’s a matter of how much.
How much should we care about whether or not an animal dies needlessly and helplessly? How strongly do we care about their suffering? How often do we buy fair trade, sweatshop free? How passionately do we fight for fair wages within and outside our own countries? How much do we care?
How much do you care?